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Welcome to the first post in this series entitled “Things I Need My Kids to Know Before I Die”. I know what you are thinking, “that is a strange topic for a blog series!”  Click here to learn the heart behind it and it won’t seem so crazy. 

Before I start I will say that these posts are not written in order of importance. Ordering them just seem too daunting for my brain. However, if I could only tell my kids one thing it would be this: love God and love people. The end!

But since I am not dying today I am able to tell them more, so I will start with this:

Call people up! Call out the gold in them. Speak life and destiny over them!

Words are powerful and what we hear starts to grow in our hearts. If we hear shaming statements such as “you are weak”, ” you are too much” or “you can’t do that” then we will begin to believe those lies. They will spread like a disease and cripple us. Those lies prevent us from walking out in our design and God given purpose.

We will not participate in that type of poison! Those voices are already loud enough in our world. Instead, let us be chain breakers and speak truth and potential over others.

Call them up!

This is what God did time and time again in the Bible. He would literally call people to their destiny by changing their names and calling them by their purposes. Come, on! Now that is good stuff.

He spoke hope and promise over a childless man by calling him Abraham, which literally means “father of a nation”. He did this way before his wife was ever pregnant. He called out the gold that was to come!

He declared position and authority over Peter when he proclaimed him “the rock” that God would build His church on. What a powerful word to speak over this man who would first deny Jesus three times before walking forward in this destiny as the rock!

Call people up!

How can you daily apply this? We often can see the gold in others that they can not see themselves. We simply have to speak that over them. Tell your husbands what you see in him. Proclaim the lovely you see in your kids.  Speak life and destiny over your friends and coworkers.

Here are some examples:
You are a leader.
You are such a giver.
You are a wise person.
You are creative.
You are a good friend.
You are kind.
You are brave.
You are a good listener.
You bring joy everywhere you go.
You are a risk taker.
You are a good writer, speaker, teacher…

It’s that simple. It’s not about vain flattery. It’s about calling out what you see in others that so easily gets lost in a world pointing out our faults and lack. Said in simple terms, since my babes are 7,6,and 5, just tell people what you like about them.

What a beautiful way to love people. Call out the gold. Call them up and watch them rise to that calling!

I am honored to end this post by sharing with you inspired words by some dear friends of mine. These are brave sisters who said “YES” to a writing challenge I am currently hosting. These ladies are writers, and bold risk takers who are doing this challenge even though fear and doubt may be telling them not to. They are putting themselves out there and sharing their words and hearts. Please take a moment to encourage them and CALL THEM UP by clicking a link below and reading their work. Your comments will make their day and spur them on in their call to writing.

Click on each name to read their blog post for this week’s challenge.






Lets be a tribe of people who call people up!

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I know so many people who feel called to write, but just don’t do it.

There are so many reasons why they choose not to write. And I get it. I was there too. Can you relate?

Instead of listing all the reasons why you shouldn’t write let’s list the reasons why you SHOULD.

You feel called to write. You love words. You have fingers that can type. You have a story to share. You have a powerful testimony. You have an average testimony. You don’t think you have a testimony. You have a brain. You have experienced life. You think thoughts. You are the only one of YOU on the planet. You are passionate about something that others need to know about. You have a vision and it is important.

Seriously, I could keep going, but you get the point.

So, you feel called to write. But what now? Let me invite you to get wild for a moment, to jump in head first into this world of writing. Let me give you a reason to start writing today or if you have written in the past, some motivation to get back at it.

I am hosting a writing challenge and I need you to join me. This challenge is the perfect reason to stop dragging your feet on this dream swirling in your heart. It will offer you a safe community that will support you, encourage you, and keep you accountable. What do you have to lose?


  1. You commit to writing one blog post a week for four weeks staring on September 11. Every Monday you will publish your post, but don’t share it yet on social media.
  2. Email me with a link to your post each Monday by 9pm EST.
  3. Each Tuesday I will send an email out with all the links of everyone participating. Copy and paste those links to the end of your blog post to show love and encouragement to everything joining in. Now is the time to share on social media with your family and friends. You can do it! Be brave.
  4. Read the posts by the other participants and leave comments. ENCOURAGE, ENCOURAGE, ENCOURAGE!

What we will be participating in:

  1. Encouraging and championing each other as we dive deeper into this world of writing.

What we will NOT be participating in:

  1. The comparison trap. You do you, boo! Please guard your heart against judging yourself and your writing against someone’s writing. This is about finding YOUR voice and making steps toward your dream of writing. It is not about out writing others or building your platform.

Our Theme:

  1. The theme will be: things you need your tribe to know OR things that make life better ……………………………………   I explain the theme in more detail here in this post. We will be writing about our core values, about things we truly believe, lessons we want to share with others, or about ways we live our lives that we believe others would benefit from. A few topics I plan to write on are gratitude, kindness, gracious assumptions, and dance parties. You can take as much liberty with this this as you would like. There is freedom here. If you feel led to write about something else entirely, then by all means get after it.

How do I join the challenge:

  1. Send me an email at reneebooe@gmail.com. Deadline to register is Sept 8.
  2. Your first blog post will be due on Monday, September 11th.

What if I don’t have a blog:

  1. It is the perfect time to get one. There are many companies that offer them for free. I experimented myself and I was able to create a WordPress blog in about 3 minutes. Do not let the design element cripple you. Don’t over think it. Just get started. You can always come back and edit it later. Progress, not perfection is our motto.
  2. The other route is you can buy a domain name and go from there. You would need a hosting company if you go that route and there are so many options. I use Bluhost and they could be your one stop shop. Check them out. I also use Prophoto for my template design, but have heard great things about Squarespace. Those are just the options I am familiar with.
  3. If blogging is really not for you let me know and I will give you another way to participate.

So, what do you say? Are you in?

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  • August 29, 2017 - 6:49 pm

    Patricia Arnold - Renee this sounds awesome!!! Writing was a dream of mine that I never reached for. My fear has always been that what I have to say and how I say it will seem to simple minded,uneducated and irrevelant to the reader. Stepping out on the limb was too scary for me so I just let it go. To say that I have regrets for not being stronger may be to harsh, but there is an ache,a longing of what may have been. I am so happy that you have a stepping out strength. I would love to see what your participants write if possible. I love your themes, mine are the simple pleasures that bring my heart closer to God. Such as laughter, nature, gasoline revivals, family, friends etc. I dont think im a blogger as i
    truely am not sure of its definition. Ink stained fingers, scratched out line’s and run on sentences..now your talking! Let me know how i can participate.ReplyCancel

  • August 29, 2017 - 10:08 pm

    Patricia Arnold - Renee this is awesome. I have always wanted to write but was afraid of stepping out on that branch. Afraid that others would think my thoughts, my words, my writing was to simple, uneducated or irrevelant. So i just let the notion go. To say I have a deep regret of this may be to harsh. But i do have a longing to know what might have been if i did try. I am so happy that you have that stepping out strength! I would though like to read what others that come here do write. I dont think I am a blogger, truthfully im not sure what the definition of it really is. But ink stained fingers, scratched out words, run on sentences…now that sounds like an old friend. I really love the themes you mentioned, mine are simple joys where i feel like God is all around me. Laughter, family, friends, free fun, nature, gasoline revivals…etc. let me know if perhaps you see a way for me to participate here. Love your words, your heart and you.ReplyCancel

    • September 12, 2017 - 1:30 am

      admin - I’ve always admired your way with words Aunt Patty! I say its time to crush all those lies about not being “simple” or “uneducated” and start sharing you voice. There is no one else on the planet that can write like you do. You are uniquely made. Each of us is made in God’s image and you display a different part of that image that I do not. I would love to see you writing and sharing your writing!!!!ReplyCancel

  • August 30, 2017 - 5:59 pm

    Patricia Arnold - Renee this site is awesomeReplyCancel

  • September 12, 2017 - 1:30 pm

    Things I Need My Kids to Know Before I Die: Call People Up » Spur on Love - […] words by some dear friends of mine. These are brave sisters who said “YES” to a writing challenge I am currently hosting. These ladies are writers, and bold risk takers who are doing this challenge […]ReplyCancel

If I die tomorrow there are some things I need my kids to know.

Sounds heavy, but is true. I have so many things I want to teach my babes. Little nuggets of wisdom that have been passed on to me by my by wise family members and by mentors who were in a season ahead of me. Revelations given by the Holy Spirit which have shifted they way I do life that need to be shared and lessons I’ve learned from mistakes made.

One of my deepest desires for my kids, and for all people, is for them to fully experience the life God has for them. There is an abundant life that God has planned for them and for you (John 10:10) and I believe the “things I need them to know” will help point them to that life.

Thus, this blog series was created.

During this series of posts I will share my biggest convictions and core values as well as simple tips and corky pieces of advice that I want my kids to hear and practice. When they have a bad day or need to make a big decision I pray they come back to these posts.

Nothing is off limits, my friends. I will talk about faith as well as dance parties, because both are important. This isn’t meant to be a dramatic dissertation but more a proclamation of good things that I need my people to know.

I would be honored to share these things with you too! I do not pretend to have it all together or to know all the things. On the contrary, I am a life long learner. But I do believe that once we learn something that impacts our lives in a positive way that it is better to share that knowledge than to horde it. If something I write in this space can help you fully experience the abundant life God has for you then I am going to share. You are free to grab hold of the things that speak to you and dismiss those that do not.

Come back tomorrow to read the first post in this series which is all about calling people up!

What one thing would you want your tribe to know? Share with me in the comments below.

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It costs $167.76 each year to keep this blog online. While that is not a ridiculous number it is still money that I don’t want to see go to waste. Thus I have two options: shut this site down OR start writing again.

I’ve felt the nudge to write for a few years now, but have been dragging my feet.

My biggest struggle is the content continuity.
I keep getting hung up on all the books on branding and business that say you must find “your niche” and write for that audience.

This blog began as a place to share photography projects that I am so thankful I got to be apart of. I had hoped to do more of that work, but my initial plan was not God’s plan (at least not yet anyway). Then this spaced quickly morphed into a landing spot for our adoption story.

I still very much enjoy writing about those things; about adoption and documenting stories that spur others on!

But what if I also want to write about parenting, or the bible, or fitness, or marriage, or friendship, or freedom, or wellness, or food? I have felt crippled by the need to fit inside a neatly packaged box that I just did not write at all.

But you know what I realized? THIS is not a business. This space was never meant to be that. And it is not about creating a platform or a following. So I can break those rules, right?

Things change. Passions shift and seasons come and go. And that is ok. So I am going to give myself grace here and also permission to just write what I feel led to write and not worry about having it all together.

I still care about spurring others on. I still long to encourage and champion others. I desire to point others to Jesus and I believe I can do that here. I can do that while writing about adoption, photography, mothering, fitness, and all the things in between.

I am declaring to you that I am prepared to break all the rules I’ve read in business and branding books because frankly I do not have the time to create a new website and new online presence. I do not need one more Instagram account. I just want a safe space to be me, and the freedom for that to shift and move as the Spirit does.

This is my declaration that I do not have to have it all figured out to move forward. I am giving myself permission to just get after it. To start laying words down that I believe God wants me to share and to stop worrying about having it all together or having any clue where this will lead. I will leave that up to HIM. That is not my job. My job is obedience and writing is a form of that for me.

I do know this, in this space you can expect:
If you like those things then you are in the right place and I’m honored to have you here.

Now it is your turn. What are you being called to that you have not moved on yet? Let us lay perfection down and start moving forward even if it is messy and rough around the edges. God can work with that. He can work with an obedient heart. Take one step forward and get after it.

I would rather be in the race with the wrong shoes on then watch it sprint by as I searched for the perfect pair.





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  • August 28, 2017 - 8:37 pm

    Kara Rodriguez - Amen to all. of. this. This post SO resonates with me, Renee! I hardly ever write anymore for some of the same reasons—feeling too busy, wondering what the point is if I’m not going to pursue it in a professional way, etc. But my favorite posts to read are just people telling their authentic stories about life. So, why would I think that others wouldn’t want the same from me? These are the conversations I have with myself. 🙂 lol. Glad to know I’m not alone. I really love your blog because you write from your heart, and it’s beautiful! I’m thankful for your decision. Keep sharing, friend!ReplyCancel

    • September 12, 2017 - 2:03 pm

      Renee - I think if you enjoy writing, or if it is something that makes your heart light up, you should continue to do it. It doesn’t have to produce finically income to be fruitful my friend. KEEP WRITING.ReplyCancel

  • August 29, 2017 - 2:31 am

    Terri Laurent - Amen Sister!!! You always inspire me! You are amazing! Love you!!ReplyCancel

  • August 29, 2017 - 6:00 pm

    Patricia arnold - Spurring love is in all the things mentioned here. If you speak it HE will make sure it reaches the right ears. Glad you choose to keep this siteReplyCancel

  • August 30, 2017 - 5:55 pm

    patricia arnold - Spurring love on is in all the subjects mentioned here. If you speak/write it He will bring the right ears to hear it. So Glad you choose to keep the site.ReplyCancel

  • September 5, 2017 - 9:27 pm

    Lisa Harvey - Renee,
    I really love this and I am RIGHT THERE with you! I often feel pulled into the trivial things like branding, etc…and then beat myself up a bit over not having the perfect looking blog (or anything remotely close 😜)!
    But then I get over it and I write whatever God places on my heart! Excited about your new September blog-share!!

    Keep sharing & forget the rest!!


    • September 12, 2017 - 1:24 am

      admin - Thank you Lisa for your encouragement. It is so easy to get wrapped up in it all. NO MORE I SAY!ReplyCancel

Dear Birth Mom,

Today is our daughter’s third birthday! As we celebrate her life I cannot stop thinking about you. I wonder what you are doing today in China and how you are feeling? I am certain that this day and its significance is not lost on you.

I wish I could comfort you and tell you that our girl is thriving and happy. If I could, I would put my arms around you and tell you that she is loved unconditionally and safe. In the past year she has been with us she has blossomed into a joyful and feisty toddler who can blow the sweetest kisses and throw the biggest tantrums. We adore her. We are the ones blessed to be hers.

My heart aches for you to also know that we will be forever grateful for the brave risk you took two months after she was born. We recognize that your decision to leave her on that busy street corner was one done out of love and not hate. You could have chosen a more fatal method of dealing with whatever dire circumstance you were in. That may have been easier. Safer for you.

Instead, you risked possible imprisonment if caught and a definite lifetime sentence of a broken heart to give our daughter a chance. You gave her life twice, on her birthday and on that day that you let her go.

We see you, birth mom. We see your love for our daughter and we will make sure that she does too! Your sacrifice will be honored in our family and your legacy of love and hope will live on in our sweet Leia Joy.

On her birthday every year, I, Leia’s mama, will always be praying peace over your heart. Thank you for protecting our little girl the only way you knew how. We love you and one day, when she is old enough to understand, she will too.

May God bless you and keep you.


Our daughter’s adoptive mom




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